Find Your Happy Place

Majority of vulva owners report clitoral stimulation is either needed or helps achieve greater satisfaction of an orgasm1.

Not only do the statistics weigh heavily in favour of clitoral touch, but 41% also report only needing to be touched in one way to be satisfied1.

Of the 1,055 women surveyed, only 18% reported vaginal penetration alone was sufficient to orgasm.

As a result, using toys for external play is a common practice for many vulva owners. Some are confident to bring toys into partnered sex.

But many prefer not to acknowledge this is common practice. It’s a point of curiosity as to why is there still shame, embarrassment, and stigma about self-pleasure? Especially for women.

Why are some still hesitant? If you are unsure how to integrate the two, the first thing to remember, your body was designed for pleasure

In whatever way your body sees fit to receive and give pleasure, accept and pleasure positive. It’s time to shed the shame.

And a step in this direction is to use toys. Toys can enhance this beautiful experience.

The lesson is you are worth taking the time to explore what makes you happy and what doesn’t, then you will be more knowledgable of your pleasure


  1. Herbenick et al. (2017). Women’s Experiences with Genital Touching, Sexual Pleasure, and Orgasm: Results from a US probability Sample of Women 18 to 94. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, Vol. 0(0), 1-12.

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