What do you mean sex doesn’t stay easy?

If I could invent a pill to assist long term relationships have easy sex for their entire relationship I’d be the wealthiest person on the planet.  

The unequivocal belief that a couple will have easy, organic sex forever is one of the biggest disappointments in modern day love.  Whilst desire isn’t always a linear journey, neither are the complications and distractions life can throw at us.

It is also not your romantic partners job description to perform, give, and facilitate sex as often and how you would like it.  

The symbiotic dance of intimacy is one to master and one that takes time, patience, and a great deal of communication.  Whilst unpacking your sexual differences can seem counterintuitive; it is at that point in a couples’ journey, real understanding can take place.  With understanding, a willingness, and a desire for pleasure; a relationship can take their sex life to new heights.

This takes work, this takes skill, this takes practice.  None of this is easy.  Of course sex can be easy at times, and of course sex can be easier with a completely different context to a long term relationship.  

Sex isn’t always easy, you are not alone, and your relationship isn’t broken if you are finding sex to be a challenge.


Integrated Sex + Relationship Therapy acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today and emerging.  We acknowledge sovereignty was never ceded.

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