We live in a world where a vast majority of women think sex is for the man. This is learned through centuries of oppression, religious ideals, and the expectation that sex is a marital right. Ultimately making sex a perfunctory obligation within the confines of marriage. This sense of entitlement passed on each generation perpetuated by social constructs, helps confirm a woman’s belief- that sex is for the man.
Alternatively, men expect their wife to want to want sex. They want their wife to desire them, which usually looks like hoping their wife wants to have sex with them spontaneously and frequently. Men want women to be wild, uninhibited; a sexual prowess. How are women ever going to desire men when the subconscious belief is that the sex isn’t for them? How can men expect women to want sex if the sex isn’t for them? Men expect women to shift out of the patriarchal world around them, and all of a sudden be an autonomous wild sexual creature in the bedroom. They want women to own their sexuality; contrarily to do this, women need to feel empowered. This creates a sexual paradox and continues a power imbalance between the sexes. And neither are getting what they want sexually.
