You deserve to have a sexual voice during your experiences, and you deserve to experience pleasure in the ways you (and your partner) see fit.   Your sexual voice is your pleasure compass.

All humans have a right to pleasure, and it’s not a one size fits all approach.  

Keep that in mind when formulating the purpose of sex in your life.  How do you want to feel during and after sex, and what is the role it currently plays in your life?

Giving yourself permission to explore your sexual health is empowering.  Throw away any guilt or shame that could potentially be holding you back.  

Permission in the solo space

One step towards this release could be using vibrators.  Toys are an excellent way to self-stimulate, explore, and safely be in your body.  

Self-pleasure without distractions and without pressure can be a sacred place. There is certainly no shame in that. 

There are fabulous vibrators out there, of any shape or size, find the one that brings pleasure to your body. You deserve it.


Integrated Sex + Relationship Therapy acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today and emerging.  We acknowledge sovereignty was never ceded.

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